Read Proverbs 26:20–22
Questions from the Scripture text: Whom must we avoid? Proverbs 26:20–22 looks forward to the opening portion of morning public worship on the coming Lord’s Day. In these three verses of Holy Scripture, the Holy Spirit teaches us that we must avoid.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for the shall be called the sons of God (cf. Matthew 5:9). Whether a king, as Solomon was preparing his son to be, or someone of the most lowly class, we ought to be careful about with whom we surround ourselves. For the king, this touches especially his court of officials. For you, it may be your inner circles of friends. In either case, as God hates the one who stirs up strife among the brethren (cf. Proverbs 6:19), we must watch especially against either being such an one, or surrounding ourselves with them. What person must we not be, and with whom must we not surround ourselves?
The gossip. The talebearer (Proverbs 26:20b), or whisperer, is always mentioning something about someone. Almost imperceptibly, conflict arises around him. Your life may be full of strife as with a fire, and then, if you have the wisdom to eliminate the gossip, you find that the strife dies out.
The quarreler. The contentious man (Proverbs 26:21b) is that quarrelsome person who seems always to judge, always to correct, everything that everyone says. Nothing is said or done correctly enough for him, and every correction is important to make. Where there is not yet any strife, he is sure to kindle it. If we are to avoid being this one, we must learn to be slow to speak. And as we realize that someone else false into this category, we should limit our exposure to them as much as may be done righteously.
The listener to gossip. This is primarily a warning to ourselves about how much the whispered words of the talebearer really do affect us. “Tasty trifles” (Proverbs 26:22a) refers to something readily and eagerly swallowed down. And once swallowed down, those words take up residence in the “inner belly” (verse 22b). We must not think that we can “deal with” a gossip by simply letting them talk themselves out. If we hear it, it will affect us. And we must note also those who are willing to listen to gossip. For, their judgment is made less valuable to us by being necessarily skewed by the gossip they have heard.
If someone begins to gossip, let us directly tell them that our Master does not permit us to listen to such speech. Or, if we lack the fortitude to do so, let us be quick to remove ourselves. And, let us also note those who continue to give that gossip a ready ear, so that we may be careful not to give so much heed their own opinions and judgments.
Strife is opposed to the nature of God and the design of man. He dwells in perfect fellowship and adoration among the Godhead from all eternity. And we were created for fellowship with Him, and imaging His fellowship in the fellowship that we have with one another. It is no wonder that God hates the one who sows discord among the brethren. So, let us be careful that we would neither be, nor surround ourselves with, the gossip, the quarreler, or the listener to gossip.
In what situations are you tempted to gossip? With whom are you tempted to be quarrelsome? With which people might you need to spend less time?
Sample prayer: Lord, we praise You, Who dwell in perfect fellowship, within Yourself, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And, we thank You for creating us for fellowship with You, and to image You in our fellowship with each other. Forgive us, for how we contribute to strife. By Your Spirit, give us wisdom, according to Your Word, to note those who sow discord, and to avoid them. And grant us grace that we might be those peacemakers who will be called the sons of God, we ask in the Name of the Son of God, AMEN!
Suggested songs: ARP197 “Christian Unity” or TPH400 “Gracious Spirit, Dwell with Me”